Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience specializing in sex therapy, holding bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University and a master’s in counseling psychology.
Working alongside her husband Xander, she provides practical tools and courses to help couples strengthen their relationships and enhance intimacy through their platform Vanessa and Xander.
A New York Times bestselling author of “Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life,” Vanessa has been featured in outlets like The New York Times, O Magazine, and Harper’s Bazaar.
She co-hosts the “Pillow Talks” podcast, offering advice on sex, relationships, and communication, and has amassed millions of views on her YouTube channel debunking myths and promoting healthy discussions.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
00:21 Why Sex Therapy Matters
01:05 Tips for Reigniting Intimacy
03:31 Setting Boundaries in Dating
05:33 Relationship Dynamics and Desire
07:26 The Physiology of Sexual Desire
09:28 Improving Your Sex Life: Practical Advice
36:42 Emotional Intimacy and Connection
47:16 Faking Orgasms and Desire Disconnects
49:42 Building a Healthy Sex Life
51:07 Low Libido and How to Address It
59:15 Different Types of Sex Drives
01:03:43 The Role of Pleasure
01:08:39 Exploring New Things in the Bedroom
01:20:37 Frequency and Its Benefits
01:33:05 Body Image and Self-Confidence
01:33:45 Ideal Duration and Preferences
01:34:48 Positions and Communication
01:37:11 Scheduling Intimacy
01:46:49 Reconnecting with Your Partner
01:54:58 Common Myths About Sex
02:12:14 How AI is Changing Relationships
02:16:37 Final Thoughts and Advice
